Jen Costa | Medium

I hate putting myself and others in a box and using labels but for the sake of understanding things I will (I hesitate to call myself a ‘medium’ or use the word ‘psychic’ because these words feel limiting to me, and I hate feeling limited. I’m also an Aries and hate being told what to do.)

How I Got Here

In short, my mediumship journey was very unexpected and unintentional. In 2017, I felt completely unfulfilled in my corporate career and needed a change in my life. (Like I hadn’t had enough change-I had just gotten divorced, realized I was queer, sold a home and moved into my first apartment with my child-can you say Tower Card moment). So of course somehow I started meditating but didn’t realize the can of worms that would open for me. It was the beginning of an amazing healing process but was super intense and overwhelming when it started. A few months into my newly found meditation practice (which actually I realized later was not a meditation at all) I had an experience I couldn’t explain—I saw an apparition in my room, in the middle of the night, with my own eyes. Actually it happened three nights in a row, so I did what any normal person would do, I googled “how to find a medium near me.” That led me to getting my first mediumship reading, eventually to my first development class, and I haven’t looked back since. (It’s actually a sh*tshow and a long story but I’m saving that for a book and my podcast.)

My beliefs

It’s important to me that you know where I stand and these are just some of the things I believe in. I believe science is real, black lives matter, no humans are illegal, love is love, women’s rights are human rights, trans lives matter, we are on native land, and kindness is everything. If you don’t hold these same beliefs that’s ok. You are still welcome in my space as long as there is respect and kindness. Nothing less is tolerated. I care about creating spaces where people feel accepted, respected, and not judged for who they are.

How I Work

Mediumship has helped me heal in ways other approaches couldn’t, but it has also challenged me, stretched me, and at times made me question everything and want to say f*ck it all. When I teach or give a reading, I share what I see, hear, feel and whether that comes through as images, emotions, impressions, sounds, or specific details. It’s a three way conversation between you, me and spirit. I’ll explain things as I go so that you have an understanding of the whole process and what is happening step by step. I’ll make it not feel so weird or untouchable. In fact, I’ll probably tell you at some point that you can do this too and don’t need me, because you actually don’t.

What Matters Here

This work involves real grief, loss and pain, so I approach it with care, empathy, and honesty. You’re allowed to question what comes through and take what resonates while leaving what doesn’t. Sometimes things make sense days or even years later and sometimes they don’t. I always work with the intention of the information coming through being for your highest good and what you need at this moment in time. Sometimes what we think we need and what we actually need are different. But if something difficult comes up, you always have the ability to say ‘not right now’ and we can move on from it.

If You’re Here

You might be trying to understand something unique (or weird) you’ve experienced, want to feel connected to someone who has passed, or simply be curious without knowing exactly why. You don’t need to have that figured out before being here. If ‘weird’ stuff is happening to you, when you tell me of your experiences I’ll probably say that it’s not weird. Because in my experience it probably isn’t. I was raised as a white, female, Catholic and was told many stories about what happens when we die. I always had a sense of faith in something that I couldn’t pinpoint but nothing in religion that I was taught ever resonated with me. But you can still be religious and be here.

If You Want to Explore This or have questions

You can spend time poking around my website, listening to my podcast, or if it feels right, you can explore sessions below. There’s no expectation—only the option, if and when it feels right.